I’ve not posted for a while. To be honest, I’ve been struggling to find the words.
So much has changed in my life. I feel a bit like I fell under a spell and woke up a frog. (No disrespect to frogs!) I don’t expect a fairy tale kiss to return me to normal, so after a few months away I’m embracing that ‘frog’ is my new normal and it’s time to hop back into action and put some text into my blog.
As demonstrated by my recent absence, life events really can give you an identity shake-up, regardless of whether the event was long planned and hoped for or catches you square in the ribs when you least expect it. If your experience of this is anything like mine, then you’ll remember times in your life when you just brushed yourself down and carried on and other times when you knew you’d have managed better with a few months in a remote cabin.
With that at the forefront of my mind and spring now properly ‘sprung’ outdoors, it feels instinctively right to spend some time identity spring cleaning. In People Voodoo terms that means dumping the judgement, ripping out the dead and decaying beliefs that no longer serve you and making space for the stuff that really matters and deserves some space to breathe.
Here are a few ideas to get you started.
Activity 1 – Who am I?
This exercise is very simple. It’s one of those, ‘you get out what you put in’ situations.
Just take a few minutes to quickly and instinctively finish the phrase below a minimum of 10 times. If you’re tempted to stop at 8, do 12, some of the most interesting stuff happens after we hit resistance!
I am …
Now reflect on what came up for you.
Was it about…
- sexual orientation?
- marital status?
Or was it about…
- personality traits?
- physical features?
- health status?
- political beliefs?
- your job?
How we describe ourselves can tell us a lot about our priorities, our state of mind, or even the messages and priorities from those influential in our past or present.
Is that really you? Are you happy with that description? If not, then why are you giving that trait, feature, or ‘box’ so much power? Now is as good a time as any to refresh what matters most in your life. Get your ‘self ‘in order. Literally! Yes, it’s your job but if it’s not your life purpose and the most important thing in your life, then why is it at the top? It’s your list, you decide what matters right now. It’s not for life, it’s for now. Life will give you reasons to reshuffle soon enough.
Activity 2 – What do “I “really think?
Social media alone throws 100’s of messages your way every day. How often do you comment or react to something on instinct? Do you ever give your view without having any idea why you hold that view or where it came from?
‘It’s what I think!’ I hear you cry.
Yes, but why? and not every opinon is for life either. Let’s tidy up a bit.
- Do you really, honestly, believe that?
- Where does that belief/opinion come from?
- What does holding that view say about you?
- Is that who you want to be?
Pick some opinions you hold and give them a good brush down to check if their for keeps or for the bin.
Activity 3 – Go on Go on Go on (best said in an Irish accent)
We are, mostly, creatures of habit.
If you know you don’t like getting your feet wet you’re unlikely to take your shoes off and jump in a puddle. The only problem is, when did you last check to see if it’s still true?
When is the last time you actually ran barefoot across the grass in the rain?
Yes, you may be a closet barefoot puddle jumper!
This week, test yourself on some foods, some conversation topics, some shops you don’t normally go into. Maybe even some puddles. (You too may have some frog in you.)
Oh and if you disagree with anything here, please tell me about it. I’m spring cleaning my views of the world too.